How to date a woman?
A woman often makes a far more profound emotional
investment
into a relationship than a man does. So for her, TRUST is an
immensely important issue. Dating is not just a convenient way
to get her rocks off, it's a case study in the male psyche. Can
she trust you to ever be a good future father? Don't laugh,
unless she's middle-aged and well beyond the kids & husband
phase of her life, this "mating calculus" is ALWAYS running
somewhere in the back of her mind.
You may desire dates and to fall in love, but you're not entitled. You must put
effort into finding a mate just like you must work for anything else in life.
You'll have to be proactive instead of reactive. You'll have to take chances,
move around, explore, open up, go against your natural human instinct to wait
for a prince- or princess-charming.
Most guys find
the first initial steps of dating to be difficult, no matter if they’re shy or
not. Firstly, it’s natural to want to have a girlfriend. It’s part of our
genetic makeup to want companionship and all the benefits that come along with
it. The problem is, the more you want it the worse it plays on your mind. For
example, you see a girl across the bar and she’s totally your type. She looks
gorgeous, has a great smile and seems to be having the time of her life.
Top 10 Dating tips
1) Keep your sense of humor. Always find
ways to make her smile. However, dirty or risqué jokes are not appropriate.
2) Compliment the other
person. Sincerity is key, so find something you like and mention it. You may be
freaked out by the idea of complimenting a man on his soulful eyes, so mention
his watch, suit, tie, or even his shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,”
will do it.
3) Sing to her, no matter how bad you are
and listen to her favorite songs
4) Listen to what the
other person is saying! This is important. Instead of fretting about what you’ll
say next, still the wheels of your mind and listen. If a man tells you about his
weekend on the golf course, and you know absolutely nothing about golf, just ask
him what he likes about it, how he got into it, etc.
5) Don't talk business. Most women find a man
who boasts or brags about his work or who goes on too much about his ideals and
aims to be boring.
6) Breathe. Whenever you
feel your heart racing, breathe deeply and slowly. If you really start to feel
uncomfortable (your face has become so hot you could use it for a wok), excuse
yourself and go to the restroom.
7) Bring flowers. I know it is a
cliche but you can't go wrong. Tulips, sunflowers, lilies and
freesia are good for first dates. Bring roses if you have been
seeing each other a while.
8) Dont be afraid to hold her hand… dont
worry, she wont run away!
9) Smile. People respond
well to people who smile. No need to grin like an idiot, but a disarming smile
will get ‘em every time. Smiling conveys friendliness and approachability. Show
teeth whenever possible. Avoid looking like a figure at a wax museum by
practicing in a mirror before you leave the house.
10) Bring flowers. I know it is a cliche
but you can't go wrong. Tulips, sunflowers, lilies and freesia are good for
first dates. Bring roses if you have been seeing each other a while.
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